Something that’s happening in this lockdown, is that family members, whether couples, siblings, or parents and children, are reacting to faults they are seeing in each other!
Lockdown or no lockdown, many of us spend a lot of time scrutinizing other people, searching hard to discover faults in them. It’s like a woman who spent a whole evening with a very handsome man, who had taken her out for dinner, “How was he?” asked a friend.
“He’s got a small scar behind his right ear,” she said, “I saw it when he bent to pick up a spoon!”
Can you imagine that’s all she saw!
I wonder what flaws the man saw in her, that she didn’t know she had, because she was so busy searching for his fault.
They say, the camel never sees its own hump, but that of the camel in front of it, that is always before its eyes.
I probably don’t see my own faults very clearly. Or, as a writer once said, “Whenever I dwell for any length of time on my own shortcomings, they gradually begin to seem mild, harmless, rather engaging little things, not at all like the staring defects in other people’s characters.”
There’s this story of an elderly couple who, while on an automobile trip, stopped at a roadside restaurant for lunch. The woman left her eyeglasses on the table, but didn’t miss them until they were back on the highway. And, of course, it was difficult to turn around by then.
Her husband fumed and complained all the way back to the restaurant about her “Always leaving her glasses” behind.” They finally arrived, and as the woman got out of the car to retrieve her glasses, the old man said, “While you’re in there, you may as well get my hat, too!”
Psychologist Carl Jung says “everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” Or, put another way, the humps we can’t help but seeing in others are a lot like the humps others see in us.
Or as the Good Book says, “Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?”
So, I do believe we need to change our way of thinking. Start looking for the positive in others. Overlook the humps or specks and tell yourself, that though they are irritating they could also be a necessary evil. How’s that you may ask.
Well, the beauty of we human beings is that each one of us is very different from the next, and in the differences may come some faults, but in the differences also come characteristics worthy of being enjoyed. So, start looking for the good in others during this opportunity of the lockdown, rather than the bad.
And whatever you do, stop being a camel..!
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9 thoughts on “This Lockdown, Overlook the Humps..!”
What a wonderful way to start the day !! Thought-provoking… Thankfully I am not like the Camel 🙂
Thank you Bob
Thank you! Good to hear from you on the site Kiran!
Very well explained and so true each word. All the reader needs to appreciate and live by this would be a open, honest mind devoid of ego.
Thank you for the lesson.
A balanced mind without any ego, is welcome. But how many people have this attitude?
We always rush in to point out the faults, very few appreciate the good exhibited.
The Good Book says, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her”. But when they heard it, they went away one by one. There is none in this world who is blameless.
Everyone of us have our own faults and failings..we are not perfect..the faults and failings we see in others may be more prominent in us..but because of ego we project it on to others.
Judge not..condemn not..for every negative there is a positive.?
If we point a finger at someone,three point back at us. Gods Word says. All have sinned and come short of the glory of God. So thanks for the advice, Bobby. It’s good.The Bible says, As far as is possible, live peaceably with one another. Consider others as better than yourself. So humility helps harmonize.
Many things can be considered irritating but all irritating things don’t irritate all the people all the time. So whatever is particularly an irritant to a particular person, he should use that to understand his own issues. If you see some other person at the same time having to face the same irritant, he may not be hassled. If we are hassled, than it tells us something about ourselves
True Bob…as you say we need to read The Good Book cause that’s the mirror which can show our innermost flaws and make us realise…..!!!