One day, while standing on the balcony of a tall building, I looked down and saw a funeral taking place in a cemetery. I also saw next to the same graveyard, a football field, where a game was in progress. It was a strange feeling, seeing sorrowful emotions on one side, and on the other, watching euphoria, excitement and the joy of living!
Life, doesn’t stop, just because of death I realized. Joy, doesn’t come to a halt, due to sorrow. Both continue side by side, and as I pondered on this deeper, my mind goes to a battlefield, where soldiers, seeing their comrades and friends fall, cannot stop, nor cry in sadness, but have to plough on to gain victory.
I remember many years ago, my dad dying in my home. I was filled with grief, as I laid his body on his bed and waited for the coffin to arrive. Suddenly, there was someone in my office who called out to me, and as I went over, realized it was my manager asking, whether it was a holiday for the workers as my father had passed away. For a moment I was tempted to say yes, then realized three sites of mine had a deadline and in losing even a day, I would be letting the customers down. “No!” I said, “Our jobs go on!”
My manager and I then sat down, discussed the plan for the day, after which I returned sorrowful to my father’s room.
I remember speaking to my man and my emotions screaming to walk away. But all along my mind telling me, “The world won’t stop for you!”
A few years later, when my mother passed away, a wall in my society fell into the next compound from a great height and the next day a huge group of people from the neighboring building came to threaten us. “I can’t think, I’ve just heard that my mother passed away!” I whispered.
“We are sorry!” they said, “But we need a solution right now!”
Even as we face an impatient, slightly callous world, maybe that’s just the jolt we need to bring us back to reality.
Reality for me, was that day on the balcony, as I watched both funeral and football match; that life and death happen alongside, joy and sorrow take place together, that maybe, even as you hear about the death of a loved one, comes the news of a grandchild’s birth.
Grieve, but gently bolster yourself to handling life, as the world won’t stop for you..!
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Robert Clements is a newspaper columnist and writes a daily column, which has graced the pages of over 60 newspapers and magazines, from a daily column in the Khaleej Times, Dubai, the Morning Star, London, and in nearly every state in India, from The Statesman in Kolkata, to the Kashmir Times in Kashmir to the Trinity Mirror in Chennai.
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Life goes on under every circumstances. At the Air Force raising Day one year during the fly past, one MIG 21 crashed while all the spectators were watching. The Air Chief Marshal made an announcement saying we will continue, the show must go on. Death does not change it’s course for anyone.
Yes.I remember sending my children for their exam on the day of my mother in law’s funeral but picking them up early after taking permission from the head mistress of the school.Its practical to do our duty as she did. When my mum passed away, Hindi pop music was heard from the slum area loudly.Can’t stop the world as u rightly say.