Marriage Maintenance..!    

The newly married couple sat in front of me yesterday talking about their honeymoon, “He wanted to go and see a volcano at four in the morning,” she said, “But I said no way, I’m not coming with you!”

“So did you go alone?” I asked and the man nodded, “I did!”

A Kansas cyclone hit a farmhouse just before dawn one morning. It lifted the roof off, picked up the beds on which a farmer and his wife
slept, and set them down gently in the next county.
The wife began to cry.
“Don’t be scared, Mary,” her husband comforted. “We’re not hurt.”
Mary continued to cry. “I’m not scared,” she responded between sobs.
“I’m happy … ’cause this is the first time in 14 years we’ve been out together.”
I read the story with tears in my eyes as I like so many others can identify myself as the husband in the blown farmhouse. How often I have found myself doing so many other things than being with the one I decided to be with when we got married.

Many, many times indeed!

Says the same writer who penned the little story:

Little things, such as too little time and attention, will hurt an intimate relationship (marriage, parent-child, or close friendships) more than anything else. We can usually get through the times of crisis; it’s neglect that often destroys closeness and intimacy.
The longer we postpone maintenance, the faster the rate of deterioration. I see that principle operating in families every day. Many couples who have come to my office with their marriages in shreds did not start fighting about unsolvable problems. Their marriages were not suffering from major malfunctions, but merely from a series of small deteriorations that a little adjusting and tightening could have corrected. But people had lost interest and had turned their attention to other things: children; careers; tennis; decorating their homes.

I don’t know of anything of value that does not require time, attention and lots of maintenance! In one week’s time I once worked on two plumbing problems at home, caulked bathroom tiles, replaced a heating element on the dryer and another on the stove. At the same time my car needed two new tires, windshield wipers, a battery, new
brakes and a starter motor.
But everything of value requires maintenance. And I am in trouble when
my home or automobile receives more attention than my closest relationships.

Even if a marriage is made in heaven, the maintenance must be done on earth. Mother Teresa said, “The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.” Lack of regular maintenance will turn your valuable relationship from an ideal into an ordeal. But spending enough time, listening and touching, laughing and caring – will keep you close.

That’s what marriage is all about..!


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