Unwanted Child..!
To abort or not to abort, is the difficult decision learned judges of the High Court face as they listen to distraught couple who’ve found, their twenty-five week unborn child suffers from a congenital heart disease.
I wouldn’t want to comment on the couple, on the judges or on the judgement that will soon follow, but am transported back in time to an evening in a bookstore where I’d been asked to release a book on Adoption and was startled to find that many in the audience were mothers and fathers of adopted children.
Suddenly a parent got up and said, “Has any one here adopted a disabled child?” There was stunned silence from the crowd, “I have,” she said, “not one but three and it is the most glorious God given experience any one can have!”
With tears in her eyes, tears not of sadness but unadulterated, unfettered joy she spoke of incidents and episodes in her home, where step by step love healed the mind of disabled child. “Whether a child is perfect or disabled, they’re all the same,” said the mother to the stunned audience, “though I know, a physically challenged child changes his parents into better human beings!”
“Today I look at the rest of the world with love because my heart was opened up by my three children!”
A couple of years later, my doctor wife told me of a case in her hospital where a father and mother had been informed their unborn child was suffering from some dreaded ailment and it would be in the best interests of all, that they abort the child.
The parents said no.
I remember my wife explaining to me, what a risk this couple was taking and what miserable lives they would lead, with operations and hospitals and huge medical bills and finally in all probability death. “God is giving us this child, God will take care it!” said the mother defiantly.
They were at home a week ago. The child nearly three years old and a month out of hospital after maybe the tenth surgery. Nobody, and let me tell you nobody would have recognized her from the twisted, misshapen baby that was born just a few years ago.
We all want perfect children don’t we? Perfect body, perfect features and finally perfect gender. I think of that little unborn child shrinking in terror inside its mothers womb, waiting for judge to pronounce verdict, “Mother don’t let me die, give me a chance to change your lives, Ma..!”
Please do give your response to this article in the ‘comments’ section below
DEAR MR. BOB,
I AGREE WITH YOU, WHAT YOU HAVE TOLD IN YOUR MESSAGE.
IN MY FAMILY WE HAVE MENTALLY HANDICAP PERSON. WE ARE THANKFUL TO HIM THAT HE HAS KEPT US TOGETHER FOR MORE THAN 30 YEARS. SO HE HAS MADE US REAL HUMAN BEING AND REAL FAMILY MEMBER.
A baby’s loud cry within says “Mein bee jeena chahatan hoon”. Let every parents may believe that the creator/author of our lives is God Himself.
It easier said than done. The harships that a child goes through when born of an incurable disease is beyond comprehension of a healthy person. To see it suffer makes you think had it been better if it were not born? I know of a family that had a child that was mentally challenged. Even when the boy reached 35 years of age, he was still completely dependent on his parents even for his natural calls. Being the only child, they were worried about his future in their old age. Every body sympathized with them. Who was to look after the boy had something happened to parents? However the boy died all of a sudden after a short illness and parents though grieving, were at least relieved from the nagging thought of his future.